Tastes like HELL but Feels GOOD

So many times in our life we develop strange habits backed by some events or circumstances. Everyone have some unique habit to them developed by a series of events that occur in life. I have been here in Kathmandu for around six years now. Kathmandu is just an amazing and wonderful place. It’s a heaven and hell at the same time. It’s a beautiful dream of thousands and a nightmare for thousands. Whatever people call it, I bet it’s a great place to learn. I am not talking only about studies – it’s a lesson for life. I learned a lot from this place, especially to struggle and to always be positive in every situation. I cannot call this place a heaven throughout my life, but it’s a great teacher and I’ll always be grateful for this place.

“Yo khaldo ma jati paisa haleni sakinxa” (No matter how much money you pour in, it’ll always be less in Valley) is one of the common saying among people who come to Kathmandu from other parts of Nepal. And it’s true. Money always seem to be insufficient. This has helped me develop many habits that will help me a lot in the future.

I wonder how many of you like drinking black coffee without sugar in it. If you are still in Nepal, I bet no one. But that’s a taste I have been addicted to by now.

One of my weakest point – among many – is taste for coffee. Many times even when I had only Rs. 100 in my pocket to go on for some days for my food and all expenses I would go to a finest coffee shop available and have a cup of coffee. I would be willing to stay hungry for it. However, I couldn’t continue this because it had side effects. It caused weakness. Later I discovered that making coffee at home would be very economical, but again there were numerous problem. So at the end I developed a habit of drinking it black without sugar, and in time got addicted to it. Its bitterness is wonderful of tastes I had ever had. I always wondered why people going abroad develop a taste for such a bitter thing, and now I got the answer. No matter where you are, human face same type of problems. We all are same.

The taste of the coffee always reminds me of one thing. Life is harsh, life is difficult and it tastes as bitter as the coffee without sugar. But there are two ways to live a life. First, take it as something bad – always be sad about it, live a life like hell, don’t ever enjoy. Second, develop a taste for it – life is not always sweet - accept it. Learn to enjoy – whether you be happy or sad you have to face it. Let the devil see you smiling even the worst of your time. At the end of the day it’ll make a great difference in your life and the life of those around you. Whenever I drink black coffee without sugar, it inspires me to look into things more positively. This is a great lesson for life which will help me be cool and stay composed in many turnings of life. I will always be drinking black coffee without sugar. It tastes like hell but feels so good.

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Beauty of Future!

While I walk in the street, my friends and relatives complain that I walk like I am going to beat someone. I guess the saying, “Walk as if you rule the world” made a deep impact on me from my very childhood. Not only that, I love observing people, their body language, their expressions and I also love to make guess of the situation that they might be in the current point of time. If you have never done this give it a try. Its so much fun.

Last Thursday while I was returning from gym at around 6:30 pm, on my way I saw a couple sitting in the steps of a closed shutter. Couple as in a boy and a girl. The girl was carrying a baby, was saying something and her face were covered in tears. Though it was dark, I managed to look into her face with the help of the light of vehicles passing by. The boy was listening keenly. They were sitting as close as possible and at the same time, not trying to touch each other. I could look into them for only a few seconds. I couldn't stand there and intervene their privacy.

This made me think, its not only me but everyone has some hidden story (secrets) in their life. This brought another thought in my mind, “all human being go through similar circumstances in their life. No matter how different we all are – we all are same”.

By the way they were seated, I made following guesses about their relation:

• They might have been in relation when they were in college and or school. All of a sudden, the girl was proposed to be married by her family. The boy was not independent enough and they parted their ways.
• Both of them loved each other but were too shy to express. They found out about the fact after the girls marriage. And now, nothing could be done.
• Both loved each other, were independent and in a position to lead their independent life. However, due to any of the social issue that are prevalent in Nepal like caste and race system, they couldn't be together.
• Or any of the reason you might find appropriate.

But one thing I am sure of them was they were not relatives (brothers - sisters). It seemed that the boy tried to move on and is no longer bind by that relation. Else, he would have at least wiped off her tears with his hand or provided a handkerchief (to wipe off her tears) or wrap his arms around the girl to give her some comfort. His body language would not have shown resistance. And in regards to the girl, I don’t think she was also so sure whether what she was doing is wright or wrong.

The beauty of future is - it’s so much subjective. One seconds of difference in making decision, a yes and/or no few seconds before and/or few seconds after can create an entirely different future. Past is past. It should only make us strong or make us wiser or both. Past experience help in future decision making. If only they had made a right decision in the past, which may be accepting their love in any circumstances and living it or letting each other go they would have lived a different life.

No matter what you do, no matter where you are, remember to make right choice and choose a right and different future world of yours. At the end, choice that we make throughout our life is the only thing that will rise us high or shatter us completely. The beauty of future is - it is subjective and a single decision make a world of a difference. Life is too short to be small. Make it big, choose right.

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